Self-Compassion Basics

Psychologist Kristin Neff describes self-compassion with three parts: self-kindness instead of harsh self-judgement, common humanity (knowing that struggle is part of being human), and mindfulness (noticing pain without exaggerating or ignoring it).

Self-compassion is not self-pity or lowering your standards. Research suggests it is linked with resilience and with being more willing to learn from mistakes.

A self-compassion break

• "This is a moment of difficulty."
• "Difficulty is part of life; I am not alone."
• "May I be kind to myself right now."

Journal prompt

What would I say to a dear friend in my situation?